You've got to go for it. Simple as that.

But when?

Honestly...it depends. But let me just start by saying that if you don't go for it by the second date then you've kinda fucked up.

Some people will say don't kiss on the first date, I say that's dumb.

If you're feeling it AND you can tell she's into you too. Then go for it on the first date.

The most important takeaway is this:

Going for it and getting rejected is WAY BETTER than not going for it. <-- Read 100x

Women are attracted to guys who can make things happen. And making a move is that.

Let's get back to going for it and getting rejected because there's a critical piece to this situation that you need to be aware of.

Your response to getting rejected is HUGE.

And I mean HUGE. If you respond right, then I might even consider it being worth more than you going for a kiss and getting it (will have to think about this lol - but that's how key it is)

You have to be cool and composed, and make a little playful joke about it. Something like "Shoot I completely forgot that we shouldn't have too much fun on the first date" or "What am I thinking I haven't even met your dad yet".

Really important is how you say whatever it is you say. Say it super cool and boom, you're fine.

The point is that you're showing her that you know how to escalate, which is hot.

It shows you know what you're doing and can lead, which is hot.

If you go for it and get rejected, and act cool, definitely think about going for it again 5 mins later. I'm not kidding.

I don't know how to explain but there's something that happens in her when you go through that first kiss fail that makes the next one likely to work.

And if doesn't, you can say "Damn I thought for sure I'd get it the second time haha"

Baller.

You have to just be non-reactive. <-- Read 1000x

This quality is so important that I have a full article dedicated to it ("Emotional Control Is Your...").

In general, it shows her that you're confident, unperturbed by adversity, and able to absorb her emotional energy without it changing you, which are attractive.

Notice that I don't really go into how to go for a kiss. I think the underlying concept of going for it so much more important that how or when. I've done it in my car, while we were walking, as I walked her to her car, in the middle of a park etc etc.

You'll know when it's on by how she's smiling and because there's tension (you'll be able to feel it).

The last thing I want to say about this is ENJOY THE MOMENT.

Really be present and enjoy it. Because these are rare moments and if you can't have fun in them then what's the point?

Ok let's move on to sex.

First, second, third date, depending on the situation, I encourage you to invite her back to your place. Ideally set up your date so that you're close to your place, that'll make things much smoother.

Make sure your place is clean, you've got some low mood lighting, some wine, music, and jenga. Yup, you heard me right. Jenga.

Or some other simple fun game you can play with her when you get there.

Don't jump right into escalation.

Jenga is awesome because when it falls it's kinda exciting and definitely a great situation to go for a kiss and make a move.

Ultimately, a fun simple game is exactly that, fun. That's what girls want.

You can sit on your couch and listen to music too while having conversation but make sure the conversation is FUN.

Don't ask boring interview questions, but talk about things that stir emotions. Kill, Fuck, Marry type of games sprinkled in to you asking about her past. Let her talk 80% of the time.

The more she talks the more she feels connected to you.

Go for a kiss and since you're at her place, make out a little and be the one to pull away first. <-- Read over and over!

Get up and go get some more wine or just keep talking again.

Then during your second kiss, if you can tell shes feeling it, then you can definitely escalate further.

Again, I'm not going to go into the moves to make, but rather that the act of smoothly escalating is attractive.

And again, I don't think it really matters if it's the first date or your 3rd. Feel it out but think about this:

Women hate being labeled as "sluts". There's a weird idea in men's heads that it's bad to try and have sex with her early bc she will be fighting that label.

However, on the contrary, and kind of ironically...

If you have sex early, she's going to be more likely to pursue a relationship with you for that very reason. (She'll be thinking damn I can't just be a lut and have sex with him once on the first date). She'll also be thinking that she must have really liked you if she slept with you early.

So escalation is win win.

If you go for it and rejected, she sees you as a guy who goes for what he wants - which is attractive.

If you go for it and get it, now you've got her invested. And, ya know, you just hooked up, which is awesome and sorta the point.